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August 15, 2011 | by  | in Features | [ssba]

Guy Sex 101

Does man-on-man sex arouse your interest? Do you want to learn more about it? If you answered “yes” to both questions, sit back, grab a condom, and enjoy the ride.

First, I’ll say little about masturbation; I’m sure you have sufficient experience in this area. Like all forms of sex, though, it should be fun. Learn what he likes and give him a helping hand, but by all means explore. You might open up a whole new world for him.

Next, oral sex. Some give, some receive, and plenty do both. Oral sex is essentially masturbation with your mouth replacing your hand (or working alongside it). Make sure to keep your teeth out of the way and begin by gently playing with the head of his penis, using your lips or tongue. Some men are more sensitive than others, so it’s important to start slowly. See how he responds and mix it up a little: softly tug or suck/lick his balls; perhaps take him deeper into your mouth. Don’t worry about swallowing his entire dick the first time out; it’s not an automatic skill. You can learn to relax your throat if you want to, but, honestly, most guys will be so thrilled at getting their cock sucked they won’t care!

The final step on this brief journey is anal sex. No matter how experienced you are, you need to prepare for the invasion. Gently rub a well-lubricated finger around the outside of your love tunnel. Once you feel sufficiently relaxed, slowly insert your finger as far as is comfortable for you. Softly move it around to find and stimulate your prostate. You’ll know you’ve found it when a wave of pleasure wracks your body

If you like, you can add more fingers or anal toys (make sure they have a flared base so they don’t get trapped inside you). Use as much lube as necessary. If you’re planning on putting a real live penis up there, further exploration is essential. Remember to take it slow; always go at your own pace. Contrary to popular belief, anal sex should not hurt, nor are all guys into it. If it’s just not your cup of tea, don’t stress.
Once you’re ready to take your partner’s cock, he should put on a fresh condom (just one: ‘double-bagging’ actually increases the likelihood of breakage), and make sure both it and your butt are sufficiently lubed. Always use water-based lube, which won’t weaken the condom. Your lover should proceed slowly and with care. Tell him how it feels; ask him to stop or be more gentle if necessary. Eventually, the two of you will settle into a perfect rhythm.

This is only an introduction to the rich, diverse, world of guy-on-guy sex. Talk to your partner(s), read books, and surf the Web to learn more about pleasing your man.

Now for the disclaimers: if you are sexually active, it’s important to have a full sexual health check-up at least once a year, more often if you have multiple or casual partners. “But I’d know if I had an STI, right?” Not true. Many of them show no symptoms at all.

Always use condoms for anal sex, and preferably for oral sex as well. “But I can only catch something by being the bottom, right?” Wrong. Guys can even catch STIs by being sucked off. Try explaining that to your mother!

For more information about anything I’ve covered, contact Student Health or the New Zealand AIDS Foundation (0800 80 AIDS). They’ll be glad to help.


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