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September 17, 2018 | by  | in SWAT | [ssba]


Sex is one of those incredibly strange topics, the kind that society both focuses intently on but ignores at the same time. The power of sex is in how it can make us feel — both in the moment of experiencing something sexual, but also in how we view ourselves in relation to sexual cultural norms. This was a difficult column to write because there’s simply so much I could cover, so I went for a tried-and-true list format.
1. There’s nothing more important than consent.
2. It’s okay to have a lower libido. Not wanting sex as much as others does not make you a lesser person.
3. It’s okay to have a high libido. Wanting to have sex more than others does not make you a lesser person.
4. It’s okay to not want sex at all.
5. There is no denying that society has crafted idealised body types that constitute “sexy”. But believe me, within the millions of individuals who make up society, every body type can be beautiful.
6. Masturbation is healthy and can make you feel good.
7. Your sexual fantasies and fetishes do not have to define who you are outside of your sexual identity.
8. There’s nothing shallow about wanting to look attractive.
9. Sex can be fun, intense, relaxed, romantic, friendly, funny, and anything in between.
10. There’s nothing more important than consent.


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